Non Attachment

It’s very simple to speak and say, well detach from it- hold no attachment, it’s another thing to actually be able to apply this skill set.

Non-attachment at its foundation holds you in faith, strength, courage and trust.  It’s a magical place to stand. What occurs in order to be in non- attachment is a power from within and without so strong, there is nothing to stand in your way of the desired outcome.

Now, for many people the idea of detaching, brings up the exact issue that creates the attachment. So for example, fear of money- has people afraid of letting go, releasing, give of money. Fear of safety and security has people holding onto things, homes, people, money because of the feelings and emotions that are associated with the idea of losing safety and security.

These are the real issues, programming and patterns to clear- to find a sense of peace, clarity and freedom.

So how does one go about doing this?

First, identify what the fear is?  I mean look at the fear- not judge it, or label it, just look at what brings up fear- loss of what?  Now once you have identified the fear, be present with it. No action required. No emotions required.  Go about your living, and begin to notice each time a thought, feeling, emotion or experience comes up and triggers this fear. Good.  All you are set to do here is identify it and observe as it comes up.

Now that you know what brings up the fear, you see the trigger. Be patient.  What often is a thorn in the side with non- attachment is the fighting, the grip, the will, and determination to change something to get out of the pain, chaos, trauma.  This holds a charge and power.  Patience is the salve to igniting the trigger.  With patience you can defuse the charge.  Stay in patience. Center, breath, and find stillness.  These are a new experience.  This begin to settle the ground beneath you, the one that shakes everytime the trigger blows up.

What your next step here is to look for what you want.  What experiences feelings emotions and outcomes do you want.  No- attachment, just what are they.  Then ask youself why these triggers affect you.  Why at this point in your life are you being triggered by something that occurred when you were a child and what truth do they hold now? What traumas were there, what chaos erupted, what pain, saddness, vicitimization and lack or scarcity did you see or were exposed to.

Here is where you my love must show up in your power.  If you saw witnessed or experienced a trauma, you most likely did everything you could to protect yourself and overcome it.  Settle in to this with me.  Look around you.  Do you have the love, security, safety, money, food and relationship (whether with yourself or a partner) you desire.  Did you create the environment now as an adult you needed to get yourself out of the situation or circumstance that held you in pain, chaos and trauma?

I bet you did.

So now, the body, your emotions are still running the program.  They are being triggered by the patterns that show up in your life.  See you did a great job remove and growing from the experience physically, yet emotionally those wounds must be released- non- attachment, for you to truly be free.

You’re essentially still holding the fear pattern within through your thoughts actions and behaviors.  Now, non-attachment will ask of you to step into courage, to be the adult, the responsible adult you were always looking for to show up, to step in and take action, to protect you through creating a safe space.  This space gives your emotions, feelings and inner child, inner feminine a space to be safe.  In this safety you have the freedom to be, to express yourself, your truth- to feel to speak to be heard seen and validated.  You are given the space to open and let go, relax and find peace.  This continues to evolve into non-attachment.  That’s right, you are no longer attached to the story or the way others, adults in your life, showed up projecting and intimidating their issues on you.

You find a new sense of peace joy and happiness.  It is here you are free.

Your emotions hold the power to transform your life, are you ready.

Priestess of Passion

Where true power and passion is found in the courage to live a wholehearted life.

Monica Heiz

www.priestessofpassion.com

516-443-8882

Creating Change

What are your old patterns, beliefs and stories telling to you?  If you want different results, you need to change your operating system, your system of beliefs, patterns and stories that are repeating, you know, running the same program.  This takes patience, focus, vulnerability, and your attention. It takes your willingness, desire and inner knowing that you can have different results.  What I always find interesting, a bit silly even, is how when we want different results we continue to ask people about the results we want and they stick to the story, old pattern and belief, perpetuating the cycle and keeping you believing it’s far off in dream land.

So what do you do?  You can hear what they are saying and chose to listen as an observer, why do they believe it’s not possible, or far off, what do they know, have they tried it, are they willing to go the distance? The Best is finding, searching and connecting with people who are doing what you want~ getting the results you want. Then do whatever it takes to learn and be a part of their lifestyles.  That means your old patterns, beliefs and stories keeping you stuck will be challenge, pushing  you to create change.  You can’t do the same thing you were doing and expect to get different results, which means…you guessed it, you’ll need to start creating new patterns & beliefs.  This also means you’ll be investing your resources in a new way~ your money, time & energy.  To get the results you want, you’ll spend your time, money and energy different.

My suggestion is seek out a coach/mentor.  Someone who has the skills, talent and experience to move you.  I mean move your actions, move your mind, your spirit and your body~ all 3 into the direction of your dream, your outcome.  It’s the outdated model that wants to “help” people an only looks at the “problem”, what you’re not achieving.  In this new model, coaches/mentors are looking at what you want, your results, desires and dreams and reprogramming your operating system~ your beliefs, actions and patterns that brought you to where you are, to bring you to where you want to be.

Everything can change. Music to my ears, I love change.  The key is to first, know it can change~ no matter the circumstances, then to find people who can make your change happen. And shatter, crash, break the old operating system, get down and dirty with it.  You’ll feel so good, so refreshed, so alive and have a new perspective on life~ fresh energy to create your dreams.

So what are you waiting for?  Change happens as we make a new decision, Now.  Think and act. It’s your life, you have the power.

Change create it, or it’ll roll you over.