When Your Values Conflict With Your Actions


Taking action on day to day tasks can become repetitive, and a bit mundane. Often you seek for something new, inspiring, fresh. The issue which arises is letting go of the old to incorporate and welcome the new. What may occur is a “pattern interrupt”, a crisis or quick change of focus, drawing your attention off the day to day, and into something more important, or rather crucial. This pattern interrupt, change of focus, some call a wake up call.

Each one of us has a set of values, Core Values, which helps us operate and function in the world. These values, are the container for how we live, in alignment and harmony with what we want and desire. Some values are commitment, loyalty, passion, happiness, personal growth, health, vitality, creativity, self expression, integrity, focus, fitness.

As children, and young adults we are typically groomed to look for stability and security in how we live. Finding relationships, careers that provide some type of safety, some kind of security. As we mature, these relationships and ways of living have often disconnected you from your values. You aimed for security and safety through things~ which limited, inhibited and interfered with your personal values. Your values, represent the truth of who you are and what you believe in, it is where you find your Joy, Personal Power and Freedom.

As time moves on, and you’re pulled further from your values, there is a disconnect, a need to fill a void. As you try to fill the void, the actions you take move you away from your values, as opposed to closer to them. Here’s where pattern interrupts happen. When those pattern interrupts happen, pay attention, it’s your life speaking to you. Your daily actions are out of alignment with your values.

For this process to unfold, to become aware your actions are out of alignment with your values, there is an element of recognition and stillness that must occur. The recognition gives you the awareness that the issue, pattern or problem is occurring. The stillness, and quiet gives you the space and time to understand how the issue is affecting you and find a new solution, new actions. It gives you the space to express your true values.

New actions require a new way of thinking and doing something. It’s in new thoughts and actions new results occur. Here, in this new way of thinking and doing, inspiration, creativity, motivation and flow begins to happen. It’s here where the day to day tasks and the mundane becomes transformed into something that ignites the passion in your soul, the freedom in your actions.

Presence, Patience, Focus and Trust are required. When you begin to place more attention on your Values taking new actions, presence, patience, focus and trust are required in taking the right actions, the necessary steps.

There is a clarity from a place within that must be nurtured with time alone, simplicity, and tending to yourself. This space can rattle you, it causes you to question yourself, what you want and what you have been doing. It’s a space where you make decisions based on your own truth, your own personal values. What begins to unravel is magical. Very quickly you feel this freedom, you embrace the risk for it moves you in the direction of what you truly desire, what’s right for you, heart and soul. You find peace. A peace washes over you. All of the compromise, negotiations, places you settled- in an instant fall away. You recognize your strengths, your values and why you feel so passionate about them- how they make you feel, how they nourish your spirit.
What occurs is:

Values always show up in Truth and Alignment

This lights your soul on fire, inspiring you to move forward, living more authentic, passionate and fearless

Illuminating the Riches Within,

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Monica Heiz

Priestess of Passion




5 thoughts on “When Your Values Conflict With Your Actions

  1. What a truly interesting post – especially in light of what I posted today. I have often looked at situations in my life and have questioned the very values I felt would lead me. There have been many times that I felt like I sacrificed my values, seeking some way to feel good about myself only to discover that living outside of my values have actually made me feel worse. The ambiguities of life exist is some ways, however, when I consider things that I do not have a hardline opinion. Sometimes, it’s the experience I go through that helps makes those values I have not decided.

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    1. You are welcome. I am glad you have valuable content to bring to the table in conversation with your partner and others. Understanding what holds meaning to us individually helps up build greater relationships with others through mutual respect of each ones personal choices and values, collaboration and ability to contribute in a way that has us feel seen heard and valued.

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